In Reply to: I'm going to offer a different POV here-- (sm) posted by Shawn on November 01, 2010 at 19:35:35:
: and suggest that you consider your true motive in this--
: If it's purely to let the kids do something they would enjoy for the holiday, then perhaps you need to have more of a heart-to-heart with your son-in-law and see if there can be more understanding between you and then go with what he says to do.
: However, since you right up front mention the "power" that he's resisting, perhaps he feels that your motive is to influence or convert the children to your system of belief/faith.
: In either case, he's their father and should have the say-so as to how the children are raised, and by what they are influenced. It doesn't do anyone any good to take sides. Wife should talk it out w/the husband and they should come to an agreement regarding this type of issue, and sorry, Grandma, but your place is to not be involved whatsoever, no matter how you feel or what you want.
: He has his reasons and feelings, and they're his, and he is their father, period. Those kids need to grow up respecting him, even if you or your daughter don't, and it sounds like you're going to (perhaps inadvertantly) drive a wedge between the parents.
: And if that happens, guess who gets to take care of the kids in their old age? You.
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