In Reply to: You may or may not have seen my post on the main board about an old friend ... sm posted by Warning: Long post. -- Easyrider on December 15, 2007 at 12:29:42:
I get myself into trouble. I think that instinct is God/someone's higher power.
Three months out of a marriage of 13 years isn't any time at all. If this was a light friends getting together thing I would say go for it, but you have a lot of reservations that extend beyond your weight. It's easy to use one's weight to make excuses. I think you're not ready to date this particular person. Maybe someone else, but not him. You are thinking so fast and far ahead, worrying about so much so soon. You really do have control here regarding relationships with men, and you don't seem to know/believe that at this point.
Also, I don't think I'd want my first date to be on someone else's turf. I'd want it to be short - like coffee or lunch - something that has a natural endpoint. I also would make sure that on the first date with anyone, I'd meet him. Always have your car there for a quick get away if things are going badly.