In Reply to: How awesome! sm posted by me2 on March 08, 2006 at 19:26:29:
DH is so much more of a father to these boys than their bio dad was. Their bio dad and I were in the process of divorcing when he died. I personally believe it was suicide. He had been verbally abusive for years and then became physically abusive the last 4 months of his life. He basically, in my opinion, lost his mind. Luckily, I kept the boys sheltered from all that happened. Some of the verbal stuff they did hear, but have no idea about the physical stuff and hopefully never know about that side of him. I hated him with all my being, but that's just not something these boys need to hear about. They were only 5 and 2, so hopefully all of the bad junk they heard will fade. Actually, the youngest doesn't really remember much about his bio dad. The older feels some loyalty yet to his bio dad and wants to keep his last name, but acts like DH is his dad and they love each other dearly.