In Reply to: It just makes me sad. SS is 11. He came to me Wed saying sm posted by Sharmz on November 14, 2005 at 08:54:10:
: he needed to go to the dentist and showed me this thing on his gums--think it is an abcess or something. I called his mom about it and offered to make an appt the next morn. She said she would do it. SS called her at work Thurs afternoon. She forgot to make it. He says to me, "It's like she doesn't even care about me." Then Friday afternoon, she still hadn't made the appt. Office is closed by noon on Friday, so I am calling today. This same child was to go in for a root canal about a month ago. My other SS also has needed 4 caps and a pulpectomy and sealants on 5 teeth since August. I had been waiting for her to sign release form for the x-rays. DH is so worried about custody and him not having rights to sign forms and whatnot regarding the children. I convinced him to sign the paper. She isn't going to take us to court because we are trying to get the kids dental treatment and if she does, go ahead. I'd like to see her explain why she isn't getting them in when we have offered time and time again to take them in AND foot the bill. It is in the divorce decree that she handles all medical bills, but the kids need this done and we are willing to pay for it.
: SS also said when the health dept came into school for vision and hearing tests, they told him his left eye was off, he might need glasses. This was a couple of months ago--I didn't know about it as they would have notified his mom. She told him he would be just fine. I explained that he is on her insurance and we would need to get her permission to use her card, but that I would talk to her about it. He asked why he couldn't be on ours. I kinda went into the custody explanation and he asked why dad can't have custody of him. He was just so sad this whole time and it made me want to cry for him. He made the comment again that his mom doesn't care if he is healthy or not.
: I can't imagine one of my children thinking I don't care about them. I have only been in their life for about 1-1/2 years and they already know to come to me about issues like this cause their own mother won't handle it. Everyone in town realizes it too. The school called me this morning asking if my SD was home ill today. She isn't at school and there wasn't a phone call. The kids don't even live with us, yet the school calls me before they call her mother. I hate this. Now I am wondering where SD is and how she is feeling and there is nothing I can do. It is so hard to just be a part-time mom to these kids when I really feel in my heart that they are my "full-time" kids.