Send her the check..whats the big deal. Maybe she is anal about sm

In Reply to: One more sister-in-law bites the dust - posted by sm on January 02, 2011 at 11:10:26:

her record keeping. She didn't have to send you the check in the first place, could have just told MIL she did. Since you and SIL are not close, why do you even care she didn't wish you a HB? AND, 1/3 of your FB friends did? What about the other 2/3..you delete them too?

All her actions seem reasonable to me, or at least not outrageous.

: on Facebook. My inlaws have proved to be asses for the greater part of 30 years. Some things just never change.

: My SIL asked to friend me on FB a few months ago. I went ahead and accepted even though she has been giving me the cold shoulder for a little over a year now (not the first time for that rodeo either). I was not sure why she would want to friend me since she's been at arm's length but finally realized it was probably a portal for her to get to my kid's pages since they have zero to do with her and definitely would not accept her as a "friend" (kids are often smarter than adults that way...LOL!).

: A couple of months ago, I sent SIL a question about car insurance because her DH works for AAA. It was a general sort of question. She could not answer me directly on FB, however, called my H (her brother) to give him the answer (yes, she has my cell phone number). Okay, fine.

: Then, my birthday came along and about 1/3 of my FB "friend" population wished me a happy birthday, but SIL chose to ignore it. Okay, fine.

: I received a birthday card in the mail from my MIL (only). MIL lives with SIL. She included a check for me for $15. My MIL lives on a limited income. I'm not about ready to cash that check. Since SIL takes care of MILs finances (and is the one who actually wrote the check on MILs account), I sent SIL a quick note on FB and told her that in the interest of her balancing my MILs checking account, I was letting her (SIL) know that I was not going to cash the check but please not to let my MIL know I was not going to cash it and that I would be sending my MIL a little note of thanks for remembering me on my birthday without telling her I was not going to cash the check. I have already sent that note to MIL.

: Today, I go to FB and have a note from my SIL - asking me to RETURN the check since I'm not going to cash it!!! Hello...we are talking $15 and it's not even that. If I tell someone I'm not going to cash a check, then I'm good for my word. I'm not going to cash the check. SIL knows I'm not the kind of person to go ahead and cash that check after I've told her I wasn't going to do that. More than anything, I'm totally insulted.

: I am happy to say, today I have decreased my "friend" count by one. The New Year is a great time to do some major cleaning.

Follow Ups:

• You bring up a good point. I was telling a friend about this earlier today OP/sm 16:54:10 1/02/2011 (6)
  • All of this angst over someone asking for a $15 check back. sm oh for Pete's sake 23:33:18 1/02/2011 (1)
    • Actually, no. Personally, I don't and won't care what my MIL OP/sm 00:25:16 1/03/2011 (0)
  • oh dear...I wish you could read your post through another's eyes. First sm lol 23:00:38 1/02/2011 (2)
    • I would say you are the ass. I never said she was scamming OP/sm 00:17:48 1/03/2011 (1)
      • Oh right..you didn't "say" you just shared it sm okaaaayyyyyy 01:44:16 1/03/2011 (0)
  • Then I take back everything I've said. If your friend knows your - sm Dixiedew 17:01:24 1/02/2011 (0)
• Her is what I don't get. I don't understand why she doesn't cash the check. Why? sm Dixiedew 15:17:24 1/02/2011 (15)
  • I understand her not wanting to cash the check, but I understand being insulted too. butting in 15:22:38 1/02/2011 (14)
    • Well, Dixie...my MIL would never have known I did not cash OP/sm 16:33:24 1/02/2011 (13)
      • what is the big deal? is you make a nice living you can afford the postage and envelope. sm good gawd 23:04:08 1/02/2011 (0)
      • I think you're missing a major point here.... jmho 19:34:21 1/02/2011 (6)
        • Yeah, you're right. In fact, just about every time I post *anything* OP/sm 00:50:48 1/03/2011 (4)
          • Uhm, I don't think so. The reason many don't post names to their posts is because of what you just said. There are some names that set people off. 10:15:23 1/03/2011 (0)
          • That is proof that it is not personal. Nobody knows who you are. You seem to be just wrong. nm Becky 08:25:16 1/03/2011 (0)
          • I've seen regular "named" posters get jumped on here many times. When a person is wrong, they're wrong, no matter who they are. 03:31:06 1/03/2011 (0)
          • Maybe you are just wrong in this situation - not that you asked - but sm think about it. 01:48:13 1/03/2011 (0)
        • Great post!! Bravo 23:05:30 1/02/2011 (0)
      • Then I guess I 'm not getting that if she wouldn't be aware that you - sm Dixiedew 16:58:40 1/02/2011 (1)
        • My MIL will never realize I did not cash that check and really OP/sm 17:04:46 1/02/2011 (0)
      • P.S. that above post goes to Dixie, not to the person who understands my point. OP/nm 16:39:00 1/02/2011 (2)
        • Don't mistake my understanding as supporting sm no, no, no 23:07:07 1/02/2011 (1)
          • That's cool. :-) OP/nm 00:54:36 1/03/2011 (0)
• Another reason to dislike Facebook. Creates too much unnecessary drama!! non-FB 13:34:23 1/02/2011 (21)
  • Instead of calling someone you post on FB. Makes absolutely been saying that all along 14:28:34 1/02/2011 (0)
  • I posted before about my SIL who lives on FB, can't talk SM I agree! 14:22:30 1/02/2011 (0)
  • Being non-FB, you're not in a position to judge. nm 13:49:44 1/02/2011 (18)
    • Actually, used to have a FB but got tired of the drama and hurt so left. Non-FB 14:14:29 1/02/2011 (17)
      • What drama?? I'm of FB with my family all the time. No drama!! Ever occur to you that's it's your friends, not "FB"???? LOL nm 17:49:05 1/02/2011 (2)
        • or "her" and not anyone at all. abutting in 23:08:22 1/02/2011 (1)
          • exactly nm 12:18:41 1/03/2011 (0)
      • I'm on FB and have no "drama." FB is what you make it. (people make drama, not FB) nm 17:47:36 1/02/2011 (0)
      • You let it become real to you. ahh..now it makes sense 14:26:31 1/02/2011 (11)
        • It is real depending on how you use it (sm) I use it for friends 16:41:54 1/02/2011 (0)
        • I'm sure you're one of the many whose entire life is FB. nm oh stop 15:59:35 1/02/2011 (1)
          • Are you? It is, after work, family, chores, shopping, etc. lol 23:10:04 1/02/2011 (0)
        • If its not real, but it is how you keep in touch with your friends and family, what is the point? Just call them or text. Enough drama here. Who needs more? Rachael 15:08:45 1/02/2011 (4)
          • "friends" with people sm for me anyway 15:21:04 1/02/2011 (3)
            • I do it by email all the time. But I don't have many friends or family. I don't want my business all over the internet for my friends, family or anyone to see. 17:20:39 1/02/2011 (2)
              • So....there is no drama in email, only in FB?? Hmmmm. ridiculous. nm 12:19:42 1/03/2011 (0)
              • I don't either, that is why I use the privacy settings. I hear you 23:11:03 1/02/2011 (0)
        • You're just trying to belittle poster. It's real to everyone, unless they go there only to play Farmville. (not on FB myself) 14:37:01 1/02/2011 (2)
          • Thank God you know me better than I do. Oh I am am I? 15:24:23 1/02/2011 (0)
          • Farmville isn't real? LOL. The text site I go to has a version called Big Barn World, and I got so caught up in it. Quit just today. Was totally taking up my life Rachael. 15:10:32 1/02/2011 (0)
      • And, not sure where you got that I was judging... non-fb 14:16:06 1/02/2011 (0)

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